This page is about my experiences in Living Beyond Loss. It has on-line journal entries and essays by both my wife and myself.  In our marriage, I and my wife have buried three children:  Jessica (February 12, 1986 to January 26, 1993), Courtney (February 16, 1992 to December 26, 1993), and Robin (July 6, 1997 to August 31, 1997).  I do not know much, but I do know that life is more than loss.

My  writing here is somewhat raw, written as we lived things. It is about my grief, not my life, so it leaves things out. For example, I worked for H. Deloyd Bailey and I had the good fortune to work with Clifford Bridwell, yet they are not mentioned here because they were not a part of my grief.  For example, as a result of writing and other things I had done, a law school sent me a letter, asking me to interview with them for a position.  Someone else opened the letter, did not pass it along to me, and showed up for the interview, which did them no good -- all they managed to do was steal something very valuable from me and burn bridges, alienating people who had been my friends.  Another person who knew about the event told me about it out of guilt.  I did not name anyone when I wrote about it, their identities are not important to what was happening in my life. The event was important, the names are not. Perhaps, some day, I will edit things more thoroughly, so that this is a record of what happened, rather than what I perceived, more dispassionate, fewer typographical errors or misspellings, less raw grief and emotion, more calm facts.  But, for now, this is what I have written, this is still my record of my grief and experiences in it.

• Living Beyond Loss: an essay.  The grief process, how to survive it, living through it. Footnotes, etc. Originally published in print.  My personal story. The Legal Practice Management Re-write -- note the final article was heavily, and excellently edited.
• Reflections (thoughts from having lived through loss). (Used as the basis for a side bar for the Legal Practice Management Article -- think of it as a FAQ) and my blog: http://ethesis.blogspot.com/ -- my on-line blog/continuation of on-line journal.
• Win's Talks:
  • Win's 1997 Women's Conference Talk (Win's perspectives and thoughts)
  • Win's 1998 Fathers Day Talk
  • Win's Coleville Conference Talk (2002)
• Healing the Spirit: an essay.  Having patience with God.
• On-Line Journal Entries (for everyone who wants to know "how are you doing"). Updates are at my blog at  http://ethesis.blogspot.com/

  Robin Journal One (September 1997 to October 1997) two.htm (November/December 1997) three.htm (December 1997 to March 1998) four.htm (March 1998, comments by Card) five.htm (May 1998 to August 1998) six.htm (September 1998 to February 1999) seven.htm (May 1999 to August 1999) quest.htm (Alumni Questionnaire of August 1999) eight.htm (August 1999 to February 2000)

  nine.htm (March 2000 to July 2000) ten.htm (August 2000 to November 24, 2000) eleven.htm (January 28, 2001 to July 6, 2001) twelve.htm (October 2001 to November 2001) thanksgiving to (Thanksgiving 2001 to ... ) spring (May 9 to ... ) Summer-Christmas A New Year (January 2003 /Memorial Day '04) New essays and thoughts

• The New Guestbook (March 2000+)(leave a comment!)
  • Archived entries.  (February 10 - August 18, 1997).
  • Archived entries.  (July 25 - October 29, 1997).
  • Archived entries.  (November 2, 1997 to February 6, 1998)
  • Archived entries. (February 18, 1998 to July 14, 1998)
  • Archived entries (July 14, 1998 to November 13, 1998)
  • Archived entries (from November 13, 1998 to June 1999)
  • Archived Entries Volume 7 (from November 13, 1998 to March 5, 2000)
• The CD "She Believes" by Felicia Sorensen  This is music that helped.
• The CD "My Turn on Earth"
• Her new CD
• Essays about Jessica, Courtney, and Robin.
• New essays and thoughts
• Recommended Links

For more about my family and me, [click here].

I am a great fan of Dr. Suzette Haden Elgin.  In addition to her books, I also recommend some books on grief and loss that I think might help. [ Recommended Books ].  Remember, you can get all of these books through interlibrary loan.  My advice is to always check the books out at a library first, when you are deep in loss you have better things to spend your money on. Later, if a particular book worked for you, then you can buy it.

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