MEDIATOR'S CHECKLIST FOR PERSONALITY FACTORED CONFLICTS

Post this and have each party fill out and review prior to mediation sessions on conflict.

How are you perceived [by those you are at odds with]? Provide three descriptions of their perception. a)__________________________________________ b)__________________________________________ c)__________________________________________ What actions of yours have allowed this perception regardless of whether or not your actions should have allowed the perception, what actions have allowed the perception]? a)__________________________________________ b)__________________________________________ c)__________________________________________ d)__________________________________________ Why have those actions allowed the perception [why has the other party drawn the conclusions they have -- provide the reasons you have]? a)__________________________________________ b)__________________________________________ c)__________________________________________ How do you want to be perceived? a)__________________________________________ b)__________________________________________ c)__________________________________________ What is a truthful perception of you? a)__________________________________________ b)__________________________________________ c)__________________________________________ Who shares this perception? [name individuals or groups]. a)__________________________________________ b)__________________________________________ c)__________________________________________ Who does not share this perception? [name at least one individual and at least one group]. a)__________________________________________ b)__________________________________________ c)__________________________________________ What changes that are within your control can be made in the current situation [that will help to bring about a change in perception]? a)__________________________________________ b)__________________________________________ c)__________________________________________

Why are you willing, or not willing, to effect those changes? a)__________________________________________ b)__________________________________________ c)__________________________________________ What are the changes that you feel the institution should make? a)__________________________________________ __________________________________________ b)__________________________________________ __________________________________________ c)__________________________________________ __________________________________________ What are the institution's limits [i.e. what can reasonably be expected of an imperfect institution in an imperfect world]? a)__________________________________________ b)__________________________________________ c)__________________________________________ If you made changes in your actions and/or processes, what reciprocity do you think is fair on behalf of the institution and on behalf of those in conflict with you? Institution a)__________________________________________ b)__________________________________________ c)__________________________________________ Others a)__________________________________________ b)__________________________________________ c)__________________________________________ After you have answered all of the above questions, please answer the following questions: 1. What do you see the as the real problem? 2. What do you see as your real goal? 3. What do you see as the available realistic solutions that will achieve your goal and solve the problem?

Write your answers on a separate sheet in long form. The last two should be your mediation goals.

-- The FAQ for this checklist

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