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Guestbook Volume 7
From November 13, 1998 to March 5, 2000.

Name:Kathrine Peterson
MEDate: Sunday, March 5, 2000 at 18:18:22
I am sorry to hear of your loss. Due to our own experience and loss we developed this tape to help children. We just completed a video, After The Tears, A Gentle Guide to help Children Understand Death. How can we become part of your program? In this video, Grammy Crandall, a respected teacher of 33 years, helps children understand what happens after a loved one dies. She explains death and afterlife and directs children toward activities that will help them through the grieving process that will begin to heal their broken heart. If you or anyone you know can use this tape it is available at the address below. Thank you for your help. This tape is also available for the hearing impaired. Sincerely, Kathrine Peterson Garrison Oaks Publishing toll free number 1-888-349-5220 $9.95

Name: Elaine
Location: sf, caDate: Saturday, March 4, 2000 at 22:12:35
I forgot to leave you my 2 web pages, the first is a memorial page for Manny: the second is a page for Demetrios, my youngest and only living child: Please visit and sign the guestbook. God Bless Elaine

Location: sf, caDate: Saturday, March 4, 2000 at 14:29:37
Re: In loving memory of my son, Manny III From: Manny's Mom Date: 2/20/00 Time: 11:12:43 AM God bless. Today is my son Manuel Marcopulos Lopez III's 27th birthday. I truly miss Manny but I stand on the Word of God, he is with our Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ. I just wanted to share the excerpt from the memorial pamphlet that was so graciously put together by your Oxnard church members: The righteous perishes, and no man takes it to heart: Merciful men are taken away, While no one considers That the righteous are taken away from evil. ISAIAH 57:1 MANUEL MARCOPULOS LOPEZ III February 20, 1973 - July 11, 1999 I'm Free Don't grieve for me, for now, I'm free I'm following the path God laid for me, I took His Hand when I heard Him call I turned and left it all. I could not stay another day To laugh, to love, to work or play Task left undone must stay that way. I found that peace at the close of the day. If my parting has left a void Then fill it with remembered joy. A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss, Ah yes, these things I too, will miss Be not burdened with times of sorrow. I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow. My life's been full, I savored much. Good friends, good times, a loved one's touch Perhaps my times seemed all too brief, Don't lengthen it now with undue grief, Lift up your heart and share with me. God wanted me now, He set me free. The following is not from the memorial pamphlet: My dearest son, I give praise and glory to our Lord,Jesus and to our Father, for Their wonderful work in your life. Your life is an inspiration to all of us you touched. I thank and give the glory to Jesus and our Father, for allowing me to be the instrument to bring you life for in that honour They allowed me to receive my life back with our Lord. Through your life, my life has our Saviour back and I have eternal life. So when I am called home, we will meet again. I have wonderful memories but to tell you the truth, sometimes the memories are not enough but then I remember one thing, one very important thing, you are with our Lord, Jesus. A world without evil, pain, suffering, deceit or betrayal. You have received the true gift that God promised, a world of total love, joy, happiness and being in the presence of Jesus and God the Father. I love you with all my heart and I cherish all my memories of our life's experiences. Love, Mom Phil 3:14--"I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.

Location: sf, ca usa
Date: Saturday, March 4, 2000 at 14:09:24
Praise and Glory to our Father, and to our Lord Jesus. I thank God for allowing me to visit your page. My heart goes out to you and your wife but I know in my spirit your daughters are home with our Father, a place we right now we can only dream of. Heaven, total joy, peace, love and beauty. I know you will all meet again. My oldest son, Manny, was murdered July 11, 1999. He was evanglising for our Lord. Manny was 26 years old, a wonderful son, loving father of 3 children, a mighty warrior for our Lord. My grief (as you can relate) is beyond tears, beyond all of my being but I thank God for His mighty Hand upon my life, His Strength, His Love and His protection, His joy in my heart. I know Manny and I will be together again for all eternity with our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. The Lamb of God has blessed me so much. I will never ever be able to mend my broken heart, I will never stop missing him, or never miss him "less" but I stand on God's Word, the Holy Bible. God Bless

Name: Beckie Seamons Critchlow
Location: Priest Lake, ID usa
Date: Monday, February 21, 2000 at 10:54:40
When I was 21 I gave birth to my first child, Jennifer. At five weeks old she went into heart failure from undetected vsd. We got her on heart medication and she pulled through. I thought that was tough. When I was 24, I gave birth to my second daughter, Stephanie Wynne. What a blessing. Just to make sure all was ok, we had an infant cariologist standing by at the hospital. She checked out fine. At the age of one week old Stephanie died of Crib death. I was lost, one on in our family had every lost a child before and there was no support network in Boise at that time. I thought I would to. Three months later, I again became pregnant and one year and one day after Steph's birthday I gave birth to a healthy beautiful son. I was meant to have this little boy, He was my salvation. Jenny adored him and he idiolised her. Thay were very close. Both grew to be happy healthy adults as well. On March 28, 1997, Good Friday, Jeffs car took a corner too fast when he was on a spring break vacation and he drown in his car in the lake at Cour d'Alene. Jennifer has since gone back to college after giving us our first grand child, Sunshine. I've had to retire from my career and do whats rewarding for me. Jeff would have insisted. Before he left, Jeff had been an a freshman in the Honors program at Boise State University. A young man know for his intelligence, but most of all kindness. He had just finished his first book of short stories and poetry and the messages contained in each paragraph and verse told me he finished what he came here to do.Most of his works and especially his last work called COME APRIL spoke of why we are here and we should cherish each and every moment and try to make this world a better place for tose around us. I am so encouraged by your writings. I write and my computer is full of my writings about life and Jenn and Jeff and Steph, but unlike you, I have not been able to share them. God bless you and your family.
Location: Edmonton, Ab Canada
Date: Wednesday, February 16, 2000 at 22:40:28
God bless you and your family and the three beautiful little girls he gave you. Sept.1991 my son Ken and his fiance, Susan were "murdered" by an impaired driver at ages 20 and 21. I choose to remember their lives and not dwell on their deaths. Please feel free to contact our Compassionate Friends of Edmonton e-mail address. God Bless you- Fran

Name: Myron and Tonia Morrison
Location: Baton Rouge, LA USA
Date: Thursday, February 10, 2000 at 01:10:54
Stephen, It is inspiring to me how you have been able to tell the world about your beautiful daughters. I have been married for three and a half years and I have buried two daughters. My first daughter, Sydney, was born 2 months premature on Sept. 4th 1997, after my wife slipped and fell on a puddle of water, She died on Sept. 6 1997. My second daughter, Shelby, was born on Sept. 8th 1998, exactly one year to the day that we buried Sydney. I won't even try to tell you what Shelby meant to me and how she changed my life. My Shelby died unexpectedly on Dec. 16, 1999. She died in less than 48 hours after we first noticed any signs of her being ill. She died of what is called Streptocaccal Toxic-Shock Syndrome. She was a perfectly healthy 15 month old before that. There is only one set of footprints in the sand right now, God is carrying us.

Location: clear lake, ia usa
Date: Sunday, February 6, 2000 at 23:56:05

Name: Sheri Bailey
Location: Inman, SC USA
Date: Monday, January 31, 2000 at 13:53:24
I just happened upon your site. I lost my son, Grant 1, in March, 1998. Back to back viral infections, which triggered a reactive arthritis which damaged his vital organs. Still have alot of questions that no-one can answer. Here is his site, I have a 5 year old and expecting again in May. I will never forget what i have just read in your pages.

Name: Emily Hedgepeth
Location: Houston, TX US
Date: Thursday, January 20, 2000 at 12:17:55
I cannot even begin to imagine what your family has endured. I had not intended to send this but after reading everything posted on the site, and this comment (from your Alumni Questionaire) in particular: "To be honest, I feel that I've been pretty much a complete failure at making any "great contribution." Most of my children have died, so I can't say I've contributed much there, and the other areas are all hollow by comparison. I look at my life and feel that I have made no "greatest contribution" to anything and can not say that I matter outside of my immediate wife and child. I'm not sure that it matters that much, either. Very little is as great as it seems. Oz (either the long or the short spelling) has a lot of lessons, whether it be the man behind the curtain or the "look on my greatness, ye mighty and despair." I felt the need to share this: You have contributed to the healing of countless others through these pages, myself included. You and your writings have been a blessing. I am just saddened that your help came at such a high price. I know too, that knowing such a thing is little comfort and certainly does not fill the void. I am thrilled with the news of your newest family member, and shall continue to lift your entire family up, in prayer.

Name: Selena
kyDate: Tuesday, January 18, 2000 at 20:40:33
we too lost a dear child. we had the joy of his presence only nine months but oh what sweet time that was. Our baby died from many coplcations of being a preemie, he left us in June of 99. we will never be the same. hearts greiving together helps in the healing.

Name: Susan
Location: Bel Air, MDDate: Thursday, January 13, 2000 at 00:45:54
I'm thrilled for you and your family on the birth of your daughter Rachel Elaine. I and my Mom and her prayer group have been praying for you all--and will continue--I believe God is working through you to heal many hearts, and will heal yours, too.

Name: Gordon
Location: Reading, Berkshire UK
Date: Wednesday, January 12, 2000 at 09:47:10
I cannot believe the resilience of the human spirit! We ( my wife Susie and 18 month old daughter Christina) lost our eldest daughter Emily Jane on November 11th 1999 (Remembrance Day). Dear little Em was just 5 and a half years old when she was smitten down by Bacterial Meningitis. She was fine in the morning when we left her, with the child minder (Susie and I both work)and by 6.45 that evening Em went into a coma from which she never recovered. We are going through the depths of despair. How much can the spirit take? My heart goes out to you and yours and hope against hope that somehow we will begin to see the light. Did you experience any visions of your children after they had passed on? We are praying and hoping to see our dear Em again just so she can tell us that everything is alright. We loved her so, so much. It feels like our hearts have been ripped out. We cry everyday. Our thoughts are with you. We know it will never get better. If I were there I would hug you all. With love, Gordon.

Name: Kyla Atkins
Location: Pinson, ALDate: Friday, January 7, 2000 at 16:03:16
We lost our beautiful 16 year old daughter, Kelly on December 5, 1999. She had a seizure while taking a bath. We have been looking for web sites and support groups to help us through this. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Name: Larry Lawton
Location: San Francisco, CADate: Monday, January 3, 2000 at 17:18:29
Stephen, it's wonderful to again make contact with you. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. As a brother memeber of the bar and the spouse of an RN, I guess we have more in common than our love of the Lord and the restored gospel. We're in a different position so far as family is concerned -- our youngest has a wonderful son, and our seventh grandchild will arrive this month! Larry/WyomingCowboyInSanFrancisco

Name: Denise
Texas USA
Date: Friday, December 31, 1999 at 00:21:05
It was two years ago that I first came across your site after reading about Robin's surgery on the Heart BBs. I have kept you and your family in my prayers since then. I am very happy about the birth of your little Rachel (smiling). God Bless all of you.

Name:Butch - Lana
Location: Mamou, Louisiana, LADate: Wednesday, December 29, 1999 at 16:27:13
I was reading throught your lost. I understand what you are going throught. We lost 2 children. 1st. one i had a miscariage 2nd. one he was born he died at 10 days old. the right side of his heart had never developed. there is so many unanswered questions. but, nothing will bring them back. we just have to wait until we get to heaven to see them again. i know it is hard. my husband does not like to talk about it. i am the opposite i love to talk about. the 2 children i lost i guess it is my way of dealing with it.
Location: Ashland, VADate: Thursday, December 23, 1999 at 09:07:36
There is no more precious time to welcome a new life than as we celebrate the birth of the Christ child. Though we've never met, I'm so grateful for the birth of your new little girl, Rachel Elaine. I am reminded that in the midst of grief and loss, there is always hope and new life to look forward to in this world. Christmas Blessings on you and your girls . . . all of them!

Name: Jackie Henry
Location: Sulphur, La. US
Date: Wednesday, December 22, 1999 at 17:52:05
just happened upon your very sorry for your losses. May you find comfort in The Lord. You will always be in my prayers.

Name: ellen
Location: ashland, vaDate: Tuesday, December 21, 1999 at 08:18:11
Steve & Win - as many others who have "visited" you on this site before, I anxiously await word of the birth of your child. I pray that you will be able to celebrate this Christmas season with new joy in your lives.

Name:Matt Palermo
Date: Wednesday, December 15, 1999 at 15:14:09
I'm typing to say, that I don't know what to say. I just went though your site and sitting here rather blurried after reading your history. I have a son (who just turned 6 months old) and I'm finding myself sitting here wishing he was sitting on my lap rite now, just so I know he's ok. "I'm sorry", is all I can really say.

Name: Chris
Location: syracuse, ny us
Date: Sunday, December 5, 1999 at 10:06:10
My wife and I have lost our first child to a miscarriage. We are looking for web sites and support groups to help us through this. I want to talk to others and try to help also. Thank you, Chris.

Name: Susan Cartright
Location: Mount Morris, Mi USA
Date: Saturday, December 4, 1999 at 14:11:27
Today is the second anniversary of our husband and father's death from a devastating stroke,so I feel for all who have lost a loved one in death,whether they be newborn or have lived long on the earth.Some times,death brings peace from suffering,sometimes it adds to suffering.It is a "Catch 22" situation that man must face.

Name:Stephen E Marsh
Location: Dublin, n/a Ireland
Date: Friday, November 26, 1999 at 19:31:54
it's very hard to know what to say except I hope the future is kind to you - God Bless from another Stephen Marsh

Name: Deidra Carrier
Location: Mandeville, LA USA
Date: Friday, November 26, 1999 at 14:53:13
I am glad someone has decided to address grief in this manner. I have not suffered the loss of a child, but I buried my husband March 31, 1999, our 18th wedding anniversary, of a tonsil cancer that came back on his carotid artery and killed him one year from his original diagnosis. I could not get much help caring for him because he had a trache and a feeding tube. I am 36 years old and not only did I assume the entire medical care for him, I am left to finish raising our 15 year old daughter. The grief I feel is not so much in his death, because he is better off now, but in the suffering that we went through as a family. God has indeed been our strength and present help in time of trouble. I shall never cease to praise the one that lets me sing. God is real to you as well and I am glad to see you grieving, but with hope. God Bless You All!

Name:Jana Peterson-Pawlowski
Location: West Jordan, Utah U.S.
Date: Saturday, November 20, 1999 at 12:32:31
Nice page, I enjoy your poetry and philosophies, and inspriation. Jana

Name:Sandy Riggs
Date: Friday, November 19, 1999 at 19:24:36
Thank you for sharing your experiences with others. I am editor of Surviving The Loss Of A Child pages at The Family Connection and have linked your site from ours so others may find you. Best wishes to you, Sandy (0:

Name: Melanie Johnson
Location: Aiken, SC USA
Date: Thursday, November 18, 1999 at 18:55:56
I really know what you are feeling, I lost my little Special Kayla. She was only a couple of months old when she died from SIDS. I was home alone with her and her brother Jeremy age 1 1/2 at the time. She went to sleep and never woke up. All three of us were in bed together. Always know that God is with each of us and He will never put anything on us that He knows we can't handle. I too am in the Church of Latter Day Saints. May God bless you.

Name: Debra
Date: Thursday, November 18, 1999 at 11:52:47
There are no words to express what I feel inside my heart after reading your heartfelt stories. My beloved son Shawn was killed in a boating accident in 1992. He had just turned 18. I hope that one day I will have the opportunity to share his story with you in a book that I am writing. My love for you all, Debra

Name: Nicola Mylonas
Location: Brisbane, QLD Australia
Date: Wednesday, November 17, 1999 at 04:55:56
Dear Mr Mylonas, My name is Nicola Mylonas, I am sixteen years old and am an Ancient History student at Moreton Bay College (a private girls school in Brisbane). You're most probably not going to believe this, but it's true! Coincidence, maybe, but whatever it may be, the way I found out about you is in my research in the Eleusinian mysteries for my assignment. Sorry this is really short, but I'd really appreciate it if you could e-mail me, so I can find out how I could possibly be related to you. If it's any help, my grandfather's name is Solon Peter Mylonas and he came from Balechori, in Cyprus. I look forward to hearing from you! Yours sincerely, Nicci Mylonas.

Name:Janet Compton
Location: Gulfport, Ms USA
Date: Monday, November 15, 1999 at 07:15:07
This is a wonder page, I am so sorry for your losses, I also lost a daughter, my only one, I can not even imagine losing 3, you are in my heart and prayers.
Location: Portland, OR US
Date: Thursday, November 11, 1999 at 20:51:41
I am sorry for the loss of your daughter... "The journey is long and the road leads home." -Matsuo Basho May your tears water new seeds of happiness. Love...Ariel Lee Marsh

Name: Trisha K. White
Location: Greenville, SC USA
Date: Sunday, November 7, 1999 at 17:48:54
Thank you so much for your beautiful representation of your little girl's life. Isn't it wonderful that life can live on in the form of memory! I wanted to leave with you a verse that has become special to me. Isaiah 59:1 says, "Behold, the LORD's hand is not shortened that it cannot save; neither His ear heavy, that it cannot hear" I was delighted to read your verses and know that that you believe in God as I do. God is so much bigger the our biggest trials, fears, hurts, and is ready to listen and help us in our greatest time of need. Thank you for your glowing words of love. My prayers and thoughts are with you...know the God that is behind the trial and you will know great peace.

Name:Barbara Weber
Location: Montreal, Canada
Date: Friday, November 5, 1999 at 18:15:04
I lost a baby girl at one day old in August,1997. She had 5 hours of surgery due to a heart malformation. After she died we found out she had a rare syndrome,called Allagile Syndrome. Uncommon here, in Canada I should say. Have not met anyone that knows much about it. My thoughts are with all of you. We miss her dearly. Just had another baby 6 months ago, and am very emotional lately. Sad and lucky all at the same time.

Name: Dona
Location: Owensboro, ky USA
Date: Thursday, October 28, 1999 at 15:05:57
I have lost a child about 18 and half years now. My heartaches for you I'm trying to help parents out with a support group. We meet once a month at the Hospice house Sometimes I feel like there is not a thing that I can do, but listen and give them a hug. If you have any good books that you have read let me know. With all my heart...a big hug for you...Dona

Name: Alastair
Location: Leeds, UK
Date: Saturday, October 23, 1999 at 06:04:49
The pain I have had to bear over the last five years from not very competent hospitals has left me disabled. I now have counselling and have come to realise that to greave is the only way past. I am not sure if I know HOW to greave. Is that sad or am I impatient. I sometimes wonder if it is all worth it but on a sunny day my spirits lift and I am thankful for the world around me and those I love and those who love me. Love must be the answer

Date: Wednesday, October 20, 1999 at 12:09:03
I read the journal entries at and I'm looking forward to more.

Name: Jessica
Location: amsterdam, ny usa
Date: Tuesday, October 19, 1999 at 16:11:43
hi.. i found your url on one of the search engines.. i was lookng for an essay topic and i found this so i started reading your page and i thought that it was so sad... i had an uncle that died not too long ago and i was very close to him so i do know how it is to lose someone close to you but i guess i dont know how its like to lose someone like your daughters... i wish you and your wife the best of luck through out your lives.. god bless jess

Name: Terry Morrison
Location: Glenwood, Ar USA
Date: Monday, October 18, 1999 at 17:04:01
On October 4, 1999 my 18 year old son was killed in a car accident. I never knew I could feel so bad as I do now. Jason was just a wonderful kid. The day of his funeral it was pouring down rain, we had not had rain in weeks. Someone at the funeral told me it wasn't raining, it was the angels crying. I was told by one of the officers that came to our house that night Jason did not run with the crowd that drinked and took drugs. It made me feel better knowing he was everything I wanted him to be.

Name: Carolyn
Location: Bellville, TX USA
Date: Saturday, October 16, 1999 at 21:18:00
I lost a daughter 32 years ago, I had gotten on with life, had other children, and lived, but you never forget. This last Thursday my brother-in-law died of a massive MI, and my thoughts now are of the dear sister-in-law who is suffering the unexpected loss of a dear one. Thank you for all that you are doing for those suffering loss

Name: Vickey B. Thomas
Location: Rentz, Ga. U.S.A.
Date: Thursday, October 14, 1999 at 14:58:37
My heart goes out to you all. My brother, Allen, killed his wife, Dawn, and called me to come get his little girl, Taylor then 2 and shot himself in front of me about arms length away. I know how loss feels. This was April 6, 1997 and it feels like yesterday to me. My brother was my very best friend. Please feel free to e-mail me if you like or visit my guestbook at and please sign my guestbook. I would love to hear from anyone that would like to talk or just sign it so I know I am not alone. Thank you for this wonderful place to share and mine is open to you anytime. Leave me your e-mail addy and I promise I will e-mail you back. With much understanding, Vickey B. Thomas

Name:T Danard
Location: toronto, canada
Date: Friday, October 8, 1999 at 10:05:12
here i was feeling sorry for myself over my break up with my boyfriend and i read your pages and cried. i cried for my shallowness over my trivial loss, and i cried for your indescribable losses, i am so sorry, god bless you for all youve endured, and thank u for sharing your pain

Name: Björn Hellqvist
Date: Wednesday, September 29, 1999 at 12:17:35
Stephen, I've known you for about a year now but in a totally different environment. I didn't know about the tragedies you and your family have gone gone through, but having had a cousin who died at age 10 and a stillborn elder brother, I think I can understand a fraction of it. It is good to see that your site offers a way to cope with loss - there are 100,000's of homepages, but few that really matter.

Name: anita
Date: Saturday, September 25, 1999 at 06:28:21
last year, my older sister lost her son to SIDS and that was like being physically tortured, to lose a child is the worst kind of pain, and a year later I'm still trying to cope with the loss of my nephew.

Date: Wednesday, September 22, 1999 at 08:09:52
My wife has had two miscarriages. Is there anyone who can help me support her and myself?

Name: David
Date: Thursday, September 16, 1999 at 00:05:24
Thankyou for your honesty and the clarity that you bring. I will take from this place a valuable lesson. God be with you and your family and bless you with a wonderful life.

Name: Debbie
Location: Atascadero, CA USA
Date: Tuesday, September 14, 1999 at 21:06:16
Today was one of my lowest days since the sudden loss of my husband. He died on June 29, 1999 at age 53 of a sudden massive heart attact while at work. I had been coping and it wasn't until my daughter, my touchstone, moved into her college dorm this week that I completely fell apart. I have decided that I can not deal with this completely on my own, and have called our local Hospice for support. However, reading your stories has given me some hope. My heart goes out to you. I will get better.

Name: jocelyn
Date: Friday, September 10, 1999 at 17:08:40
I just want to tell you how sorry I am for you and that I can emphatize with your situation. I lost my little girl Lauren when she wast 28 months old. She died on Dec. 4th,1997 due to an acute asthma attack. We will always miss her and things will never be the same again.

Name: Becky
Alta Canada
Date: Sunday, September 5, 1999 at 02:41:31
Thank you so much for sharing your story with me. I can't begin to understand what you've gone through, but your story has made me ever more grateful for the gift of my two young daughters, aged 6 and 3. Your courage and devotion to your family shines in your pages. I hope and pray that the birth of your newest child will return some of the joy, peace and love that the three of you so richly deserve.

Name: bonnie
Location: ravenna, ohio usa
Date: Saturday, September 4, 1999 at 11:47:35
I am so sorry for your losses. My heart goes out to you. Please visit my girls: God Bless You

Name: bonnie
Location: ravenna, ohio usa
Date: Saturday, September 4, 1999 at 11:44:51
I am so sorry for your losses. My heart goes out to you. Please visit my girls: God Bless You

Location: ravenna, ohio usa
Date: Saturday, September 4, 1999 at 11:36:15
I am so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you. God Bless You

Name: Jamie Cuervo
Location: tampa, fl usa
Date: Monday, August 30, 1999 at 14:45:28
I miss my son so much, I do not know how I cope with life everyday. He was my world and now he's gone.He was with me 2 1/2 years,and that's just not enough time. I just want him to know that I miss him terrible and love him.

Name: Jamie Cuervo
Location: tampa, fl usa
Date: Monday, August 30, 1999 at 14:44:26
I miss my son so much, I do not know how I cope with life everyday. He was my world and now he's gone.He was with me 2 1/2 years,and that's just not enough time. I just want him to know that I miss him terrible and love him.

Location: Corvallis, OR USA
Date: Sunday, August 29, 1999 at 00:46:12
Thank you so much for sharing you rstory with the world. I lost my son Johsua to HLHS when he was 8 days old (5 days post-Norwood) on June 8, 1999. Nothing is harder than losing a child. I cannot imagine the pain of going through that 3 times. It is hard to carry on at times, but we must: we are here for a reason. I was amazed to read about your patriarchal blessing. I haven't read mine since Joshua died, I think I will go look at it. Thank you for sharing.

Name: ellen
Date: Tuesday, August 24, 1999 at 13:23:30
Steve, I have to disagree with your comment below: "...I have made no "greatest contribution" to anything and can not say that I matter outside of my immediate wife and child." I think the extent of entries in your Guestbook and returning visitors [such as myself] who are anxious to see that your family will survive these multiple tragedies identifies a significant contribution which you hinted at "...I'd like to be taught hope again. I have been able to teach that to others ..." For many of us who are experiencing life tragedies of our own, you have given us - and continue to give us - a light at the end of our tunnel. I pray that this coming birth will deliver much light in the life of your family and restore some joy to your days. I am deeply grateful for the "significant contribution" you have made to this one reader's journey in grief.

Name: Jon Palmer
Location: Haverfordwest, Pembrokeshire Wales
Date: Saturday, August 21, 1999 at 05:46:28
Thank you for sharing your experiences of your tragic loss. My son Sam was still born four weeks ago, and my wife died two weeks after, I'm still finding it difficult to accept, but your site has helped me to understand a little better.

Name: Jon Palmer
Location: Haverfordwest,Date: Saturday, August 21, 1999 at 05:41:51

Name: Jon Palmer
Date: Saturday, August 21, 1999 at 05:40:39

Name: rita krause
Location: kewanee, il 61443
Date: Friday, August 13, 1999 at 21:35:48
Just looking around to see how people handle the grieving process of a child. I lost my son Mason he was born May28th 1998 and died on august 6th 1999. Mason was born with a heart defect that was repaired at 5 days old and then went into kidney failure. He died from a blood clot on the brain stem. But he was wonderful, smily boy. I miss him dearly and will always remember my sweet boy Mason. And i wanted to say thank you for sharing your story.

Date: Sunday, August 8, 1999 at 05:52:41
Thank you for sharing your story with others. I'm sure it will be of aid and a blessing to all who see it. It is always a tragedy when we lose someone we love. The pain and grief seem never ending at times and yet with time it does become easier. Always remember the precious memories you carry in your heart and mind for those are what help in dealing with our loss. It is during these times that the Lord surrounds us with his love and comfort. God Bless and be with you always.

Name:Amber Dahl
Location: Boise, ID USA
Date: Thursday, August 5, 1999 at 23:33:49
What a beautiful site. I don't know what you've gone through, and I don't pretend to understand. I only want to tell you my heart goes out to you and your family. Thank you for giving me a reminder to be grateful for the blessings we have been given in our lives. I too often complain over trivial things. Thanks for the reminder of what really matters in life. May the Lord bless you with peace and comfort.

Name: Sue
utahDate: Wednesday, July 28, 1999 at 00:01:28
I know your pain and loss. I lost my youngest son August 25,1998. He was twelve. He was hit by a car while riding his bike. The last year has been hard on our whole family. My older son who was 16 was with Paul when the accident happened. He has really taken it hard. So has my oldest, my daughter who is 20. It has caused alot of stress for my husband and myself as well. Our faith in Jesus Christ and the plan of salvation has made this journey a whole lot easier. Things are starting to get a little easier but I know I will never be the same. I feel for you having lost three little ones. You must be very strong people.

Name: Lisa Hinzman
Location: Harrisville, WV USA
Date: Sunday, July 25, 1999 at 14:58:32
My heart goes out to you and your family... I do not know the feeling of losing a child but, my daughter suffers from Tuberous Sclerosis and has a benign brain tumor that we must monitor closely. Just living with the fear of losing her or my healthy son frightens me so much! I can not imagine the pain and loss you must feel... Thank goodness you have the Lord and your faith--that is all that has seen our family through at times. I will pray for you and I admire you greatly for your strenghth.

Name: Tina
Location: Ceiba, PR ??
Date: Monday, July 19, 1999 at 19:10:17
This is the most detailed memorial site I have seen since I have been looking (the last 2 months). What a wonderful Job you have done introducing these 3 beautiful girls to the world, and sharing your heart wrenching stories. I lost my 11 year old daughter Rebecca after we were hit on the highway by an on-coming truck, May 18,1999. We were both passengers, the driver my friend, Misty and Rebecca were both killed. I hope to someday to make a web site close to as good as yours. Thank you for your inspiration. Tina

Name:Grandma Jeani
Location: Atlantic City,NJ, NJ USA
Date: Sunday, July 18, 1999 at 11:33:27
What a beautiful tribute to your 3 little girls.Your love & devotion shine throughout this site.There is no greater loss than the loss of a child,it is so hard to believe that you have indured 3 losses.I believe your love and devotion to our lord has helped you and your family.I wish I had just some of your strength.Wishing your family the best,

Name: Paula Wood (or)
Location: Shelton, WA USA
Date: Monday, July 12, 1999 at 00:56:04
I just wanted to say I have lost a daughter too and I think there is no greater pain. We lost our daughter in Feb. 1999 in a house fire, my oldest daughter was burned and spent 5 weeks in a burn unit and my 16 year old and my 8 month grandson got out unharmed. I have been looking for a place to go on here to just talk. Our community is re-building our home for us and I have a lot of different feelings gong on at this time. Anyway thank you for letting me write all this down. GOD BLESS EVERYONE. Paula

Name: M. Marchese
Location: allentown, pa usa
Date: Monday, July 5, 1999 at 23:24:52
Thank you for sharing your tragic ordeal, although it is heartbreaking, it will help so many others out there who may be trying to figure out how they are going to survive the days ahead. How is your daughter Heather? I would really enjoy hearing how she has coped with the loss of her sisters also. Thank you for sharing, god bless you, M

Location: greenville, TN usa
Date: Friday, July 2, 1999 at 16:08:21
I am so sorry for all you have been through. I can't imagine lossing so much. And what beautiful children. I lost my only child BECCA to SIDS when she was 11 weeks old. It happened on January 1 1999. So my loss is recent. You can visit BECCA's page at the ulr above if you want to.. Please feel free to write any time and please sign BECCA's guestbook if you have time Love and Prayers..........Jean...........Mommy to..........REBECCA "BECCA" CHRISTEN..........10-16-98 through 1-1-99...and NEW BABY..........due on 1-17-00

Name: Robert Mylonas
Date: Friday, November 13, 1998 at 23:40:27
The archived entries in the guestbook really did me a lot of good to read. Thank you.

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