Mediation On-Line A Newsletter from ADR Resources http://adrr.com/adr9/077.htm Volume 9, #4 Final Issue From: srmarsh (at) adrr (dot) com Subscribe

Greetings:

A couple of points. First, the guy whose picture is up at http://adrr.com/ is me -- just a couple years older and 65 pounds lighter. Life moves on for all of us.

I'm speaking in Plano, Texas this September for the Southwest Conflict Resolution Network on What Really Happens in Negotiation: What we Learn from Observational Studies, Statistics, Cluster Analysis and Models of Human Conflict Approaches.

It will be Thursday, September 14, 2006, 7:00 p.m. - 8:30 p.m., Southern Methodist University at Legacy, Building 3, 5236 Tennyson Parkway, Plano, TX 75024.

After the first ABA statistical study was done, they did observational studies. From those we know that aggressive negotiators always insult the other side (the statistical surveys never hinted at that). Cooperatives always try to give something away for free to prompt the other side to give something back. Aggressive negotiators always lie, the best ones tell lies to themselves as well as the other side -- and believe those lies even after the negotiation is over.

Very little has been done with the observational studies, but a great deal has been done to apply cluster analysis to the statistics. That has generated four groups from the original two. The are somewhat know as:

Feral Aggressive Negotiators, Traditional Aggressive Negotiators, Cooperatives, Staid Cooperatives.

It is easier to understand these groups if you have kept up with the last twenty years of human conflict analysis, especially as informed by the work of Suzette Elgin -- or if you imagine what a group of children will do if a strange animal wanders into their yard.

Some will want to throw things at it, attack it -- those are the Aggressive types.

Some will want to offer it food, to make friends with it -- those are the Cooperatives.

Some will want to run away from it, to avoid getting hurt -- those are the Staid Cooperatives.

Some will keep changing their minds, dithering -- those are the Feral Aggressive Negotiators (often called Incompetent Aggressive Negotiators -- they get caught lying)

Some will try to figure the animal out -- those are the Analytical Negotiators, often mistaken for Cooperative Negotiators.

It is these five models of negotiation, and the so-called "measured cooperative negotiation pattern" that I am going to speak on.  

Interesting new Mediation & ADR (and other) web sites and useful links:

• http://www.cnr.berkeley.edu/ucce50/ag-labor/7article/article40.htm -- a free listening seminar -- designed to be downloaded and burned to CDs, freely distributed.
• He also has a free 2 CD seminar (Spanish) on conflict management skills, or rather, interpersonal negotiation skills call him at (209) 525-6800.
• http://www.darfurisdying.com/aboutgame.html
• Mediation Mensch, http://www.mediationmensch.blogspot.com wants you to know that it is easy and a matter of a few well applied bits of inside information, which they can sell you, that will allow you to make a fortune as a mediator.  The place where you get to pay for the advice is ADRPracticeBuilder.com -- including a teleconference seminar titled:  Passive Income: Make Money in Your Sleep ($39).
• http://www.niacr.org/pages/blog/mediation_blog.htm -- links to mediation blogs.
• 1st International Workshop on Complexity and Organizational Resilience, The Role of Complexity Thinking in Building and Sustaining Resilience in Dynamics Organizations, 24-25 May 2007 Pohnpei, Micronesia.
• Sites attempting to serve as advertising gateways continue to show up.  MediationLawFirms.com is another.

Books/Research/Conferences:

"ENGAGING THE OTHER" The Power of Compassion, October 26-29, 2006 Kalamazoo, Michigan USA, www.cbiworld.org for full details.

3rd International Workshop on Complexity and Philosophy, 22-23 February 2007, Stellenbosch, South Africa

Other:

If you are interested in the method I used to lose weight, it is all available for free on the web.  I've put together a collection of links at: http://ethesis.blogspot.com/2006/07/quick-links.html -- as well as a recent picture (I've got a beard, which I'm going to shave off again, so http://adrr.com/ is better if you want to recognize me somewhere). If you've read this far in the newsletter, feel free to drop me a comment there.

I'm running out of steam in writing the newsletter.  Chris Honeyman's project pretty much covered mediation best practices, the practice of mediation seems mature, and these days I'm a full time litigator who attends mediations on behalf of clients rather than as a mediator.  "Deborah Laufer" <list@adrnetwork.org> covers employment openings and Keith L. Seat, J.D.'s newsletter at http://keithseat.com/publications.htm really covers other news very well.

http://adrr.com/ needs a thorough editing and this newsletter really could use a new editor as well.  If someone is interested in taking over the newsletter, please feel free to drop me a note.  If not, I really feel that as long as Deborah Laufer and Keith Seat are out there, this newsletter is outdated.

Comments:

http://lists.willamette.edu/mailman/options/dis-res/ -- the newsletters are up and running.  Well worth the free subscription.

Some of the best things in mediation are still free.

With my best regards, I remain,

Sincerely yours,

Stephen Marsh
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